What coaches often fail to address in praising sports life lessons

In Eugene, Oregon, the modern University of Oregon Hatfield Dowlin Complex has its name and address, 2500 Martin Luther King Jr., on the side of one wall on a fall day in 2019.

Published September 15, 2025

People will be talking about Saturday’s postgame comments from University of Oregon football coach Dan Lanning for a long time. It was a noble effort in some ways, an attempt to calm the waters during an awful time. But I want to talk about what’s easy to miss if you live in the major college sports bubble 24/7.

First, here are some of Lanning’s words. More are at the bottom of this post.

What I didn’t hear

The sports world could learn a lot from the rest of the U.S., Dan. A lot of the people I know, some of whom sleep on sidewalks or in tents along roads, would be taken aback if they walked through big-time college football locker rooms and other facilities, as I have. I’m not here to pick on Dan, but there are some big gaps in his pep talk.

Lockers a person could recline in to meditate or sleep. Climate-controlled rooms with nap pods. State-of-the-art weight rooms. Refrigerators stocked with protein drinks and more. Trained medical staff. Pool tables and foosball tables. Big-ass televisions. Hydrotherapy rooms. People to wash their uniforms and clean their practice shoes and their game shoes. Motivational posters and videos at their disposal. And so on, including nutritionists designing their closely monitored (and free) meal plan. Some of you have no idea.

I’d imagine it might help a group of people to put aside differences in race, background and religion and to rally around and love each other with that kind of no-cost-to-them material support — and a free education in exchange for your sweat and effort.

Don’t you?

Roofers, construction workers, teachers, cashiers, delivery drivers, food workers and many others can’t afford to live in the city where they work. Some have to sleep outside every night before going to work every day.

I agree: They could learn a lot from the Oregon Ducks locker room — probably not all of it a comfort to them as they fight to stay afloat in America.

Imagine if we helped everybody become the best version of themselves that way and set them up for success rather than set them up for failure.

UO’s facilities

At Oregon, they have Phil Knight money. Nike money. It’s a lot of green.

That video is 6 years old. Things are even better now.

There’s also the John E. Jaqua Center for Student Athletes.

The John E. Jaqua Academic Center for Student Athletes on the campus of the University of Oregon.

There’s been a modern academic center for students who are athletes at LSU since Nick Saban insisted the university build one upon accepting the job of football coach there in 1999. He knew it would make moms and dads happier about sending their sons there to play for him.

Others’ facilities

You really should check out LSU’s football locker room …

… at the University of Texas …

… and at every university in this week’s AP Top 25 poll. Take your time. There are a lot of photos and videos that will blow your mind.

Maybe your team will win a championship and get some expensive rings.

A collection of jewel-studded college football championship rings from the University of Michigan, the University of Georgia, Penn State, Ohio State and others.

‘Differences’

Kirk heavily criticized Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., whose name — as part of the street address of the building — is on the side of the Oregon athletic facility in the photo at the top of this post. Judge for yourself his intent when discussing his thoughts on seeing a Black pilot.

Kirk used a lot of dog whistles in his remarks wherever he went. Whether in fact-checks or analyses, we do a disservice to reality when we use the lazy default of “conservative” to label his beliefs. And yes, let me address this: In speaking about people like me, he used such phrases as “transgender craze,” “social contagion,” “trans zealots,” “purple-haired Jihadis” and “thinking you are a leopard when you are a human.”

If anyone uses such anti-trans terms as “transgender ideology” or “transgenderism” or calls us “transgenders” or “transgendered,” they are not operating in good faith or from a place of widely accepted best practices.

It struck me when Lanning said:

There’s a lot of things that Charlie said that I did not agree (with) at all. There’s a lot of things he said that I did agree with. But what is disappointing is, I could respect those differences, and somebody else couldn’t.”

I can’t respect those differences, not when there are databases of people like me targeted for doxxing or worse. Not when I have to be worried I could be gunned down in, or abducted from, the parking lot of my medical clinic. Not when I have a target on my back and have had one there all year. For many vulnerable and marginalized people, these go way beyond being differences.

Big holes in that speech

Major college football coaches and players don’t live in the real world. Not the way most of the rest of us do. The weekend was another reminder of that.

Again, I understand the point Lanning was trying to make, but the Oregon football locker room and the rest of the U.S. are like apples and horse apples. The structure of big-time college athletics removes many of the impediments to teamwork and collegiality that exist in an increasingly hostile job market and economy.

It’s naive to think his team’s camaraderie is translatable to the rest of the country without a whole lot of material support being brought to bear.

We could do it. We choose not to.

Players are historically big men on campus, with their dance cards typically filled up, and with a lot of years of privilege already in their back pocket. Many of them have had schools look the other way at their bad behavior, and they are given the benefit of the doubt in ways that girls — and their nerdy classmates — are not.

How do we apply the dynamics and lessons of your locker room to the rest of the U.S. without all of those perks, Dan?

I can imagine the criticism of this blog post. I’ll be quick to close comments if they get nasty. Rest assured I’ll have IP and email addresses and other data to show law enforcement if I’m threatened. It’s a scary time for me.

I started writing professionally about sports in 1983. I’ve seen a lot of young people escape hardscrabble environments through athletics, so I get the positives. I’d like to see more opportunities for people who can’t run fast or catch a ball or play a game well.

I’m old and tired and in pain and frightened, so I’ll stop there. You can probably think of a lot more ways that Lanning’s words don’t easily carry over into most of our lives.

Protect your peace. Sending love.

Thank you

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Credits

Featured image of Muscle Milk bottles by rblfmr via Shutterstock.

Photograph of U of O academic center by Ken Wolter via Shutterstock.

Photo of championship rings by ChicagoPhotographer via Shutterstock.

Photo of Oregon facility by Kip C Anderson via Shutterstock.

Transcription of Lanning comments posted by Matt Fortuna on Bluesky.

Q: There's been a lot going on in the country last week. Have you addressed that with your team? Have kind of you handled that? A: "Yeah. I think the U.S. could learn a lot from our locker room. I think the people in this world can learn a lot from our locker room. You walk in that locker room, you got guys of different races, guys of different backgrounds, different religions, and you got a team that loves each other, like tons of differences, tons of differences — where they come from, what they deal with, and ultimately you have a team that loves each other. And I think we're missing some of that in our country. I recently found out, like, Charlie Kirk was a Oregon fan, right? I didn't know that. I hurt for his wife, Erika, and their kids. Like, that sort of evil should never exist in our country. And that's what it is, it's evil. I remember having to explain that to my family, right? I remember sitting down with my kids and explaining what happened. "They're talking about people talking about it at school. And it's just sad, right? But it's just as sad, every day it seems like we deal with some sort of violence that's going on in our country, whether it's school kids in Colorado or kids in Minnesota at churches. I mean, life matters. And I think we've lost sight of that. But I just wish the world could learn a little bit of something from our locker room, because we've got a bunch of people with differences, and what you got in there is a bunch of people who love there. "And there's some people that'll be disappointed about how much I said about this, right? And there'll be some people that are disappointed I didn't say enough, right? And I really don't care. What I do care about is if you disagree with me, if you hate me, if you don't like me, just know this, I love you. I absolutely love you, right? And life matters. And there's no way that Charlie should experience that, his family should experience that, there's no way that that evil should exist in this world, and we have to continue to identify and point it out and make sure that it's absolute evil. There's no reason in the world we should be worried about sending our kids to school. it's our most valuable commodity in the world. They should be protected. And the reality is, there's just not a lot of common sense on both sides. Like common sense says, Oh, it's mental health, right? Common sense (says) Oh, it's guns. You know what? It's both. Let's have some common sense. Our kids should be the most protected thing in the world, right? They should have armed guards at every school, because there's sick people. There's sick people in this world, right? And on top of that, sick people need help, and it should be really hard for a sick person to have a gun. Should be really hard, right? And if people can't see that from both sides, how disappointing is that? "But I just know when you see moments like that that exist right now in our country, like, I just think about my kids. And I remember I saw that video, it's disgusting, and I just told them, like, Man, I hope my kids don't see that video. How much does that suck? I hope Charlie's kids never see that video. Like, disgusting, right? We glorify it. We praise it. People are internet warriors, and those are sick people, and at some point we need to go look at sports, because what our football team has is it has people on both sides of the fence, right, and there's fans that love our team that have a lot of different opinions. And the truth is, there's a lot of things Charlie said that I did not agree with at all. There's a lot of things he said that I did agree with.  "But what's disappointing is I can respect those differences.And somebody else couldn't, and they thought that they deserved to be God in that moment, and they didn't. And nobody should have to experience that. So yeah, I got a lot of disappointment. We had Bible study with our team. We talked about it with our team, and I think our team feels the same way, regardless of views. I don't think they feel anybody ever deserves to experience what some people in our country are experiencing right now. It's super disappointing."

 

3 thoughts on “What coaches often fail to address in praising sports life lessons

  1. Erin Brenner

    I don’t follow sports, so I had no idea about how overly privileged a select few sports could be. Wow. I agree: Lanning was trying to make a point, but, boy, did he miss it.

    And “apple to road apples” is brilliant.

  2. Tanja

    It ate my long comment again but basically what i said was that Lanning’s logic is completely fallible and enabling. He is suggesting that he can pound his chest for being able to ” respect other’s differences where other’s couldn’t”, conveniently dropping by the wayside the fact that the differences he “respected” were hate speech and the complete DISrespecting of many in our society- even condoning intolerance and inciting potential violence towards others. Extending this logic will mean giving serial killers and rapists and hitlers free passes for the bragging rights that we were good enough to respect their evil views. No thanks.

    And don’t even get me started on the moneys wasted on sports facilities so we the plebs can have bread and circuses and ignore the evil deeds our leaders are committing.

    Thank you for another great piece, Ms. Carly and with you all the way, as you know!

    xxx your ex.

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